By: Pastor Moses Adekunle

Venue: UNILAG Multipurpose Hall

Date: Sunday, February 15th, 2026

Text: Eccle 4:9-12

Eccle 4:9-12 Confirms how good a relationship is.

What is Relationship?  
Relationship is an intentional alignment that makes a man connect with another man which opens up a human portal that gives you access to what and who they are.

15 lessons from Eccle 4:9-12

1. You cannot succeed alone.
2. Relationship is a command.
3. Relationship is a privilege.
4. Relationship is unavoidable.
5. If the only thing you know how to do in life is keeping relationship then you’re doing well.
6. For Everyone doing well in life, a certain relationship is in their lives
7. For Everyone not doing well in life, a certain relationship is in their lives
8. Anytime God wants to bless a man, He releases a relationship into the life.
9. Anytime an enemy wants to finish a life, he deprives the life certain relationships and worse still, connects you to the wrong relationship.
10. If you’re complaining you do not have money, you seriously do have money but what is missing is relationship. If you have relationships then you have money.
11. When you lack a relationship, you lack everything.
12. One way to know that a life is under a curse is lack of relationship.
13. Everyone doing well is a matter of relationships

Your relationship of people around is a key factor of your progress.

The below 6 relationships can be your catalyst to your success:

1. Employers
2. Employees
3. Friends
4. Church members and Pastor
5. Colleagues and subordinates
6. Landlords and Tenants

Statements of truth about relationships

1. No one can become what God has in plans for him/her without relationship.
2. Relationship is the power of life.
3. It is a currency that has the capacity to buy you a good future or destroy your good future.
4. God cannot work in your life without a relationship.
5. A relationship is needed in fulfillment of what God has for you.
6. A relationship is tied to your answered prayers.
7. For you to get to the next level of your life, you need relationships.
8. Whether you like it or not, your life will rise and fall according to the relationships that you have in your life.
9. Every man should endeavor to never part on a blank note on every relationship.
10. The relationship you keep determine a lot about your life.
11. Your intimacy with someone today maybe your protection tomorrow.
12. Your closeness with someone maybe your downfall tomorrow.
13. The gap between you and where you’re going is a relationship.
14. There is always a person that God has tied your life around. Meeting him on time will advance your destiny and every other thing that concerns your life.
15. You cannot live all alone independently of the people around you.
16. Who you move with determines the level at which your life will move.
17. Never part with anyone on a bad note because you may still need them.
18. Never burn the bridge that made you cross the river. You may still need that bridge to bring you back.
19. There is no life when there is no relationship between a man and a woman.
20. A good intentional godly relationship has the capacity to bring you into alignment that will open divine portals and birth clarity that enhances success and fulfillment in life and destiny.
21. No matter how hurt you are as a result of relationships, you still need another relationship to get healed and get to your destination.
22. Life is created for relationship.
23. Relationship can make or mar your life depending on the kind of relationship that you have
24. The journey of life is riding on the wheel of relationships.
25. The fuel of life is relationship.
26. The spirit of life is relationship
27. One of the hallmarks of relationship and the fuel that makes relationship to thrive is forgiveness.
28. If you cannot forgive, relationship has no future.

Ways to build and grow relationships

1. Eliminate parasitic mindset.
2. Approach every relationship with an attitude of I’m here to be a blessing and contribution
3. Be generous as a rule. Don’t be generous as a trade by barter.
4. Be sacrificially involved with a genuine passion.
5. Build a connection before you ever need one. If you don’t build one on time, it may be seen as wanting to take advantage of them later on.
6. Respect the opportunity to meet people. Never downplay the opportunity to meet people.
7. Be and remain an asset, never a concern
8. Honor and respect the person you are having relationship with.
9. Respect boundaries and commitment
10. Reach out first – don’t wait to be reached out especially to relationships that are connected to your life.
11. Never forget to say thank you. Be grateful.
12. Earn trust – Trust is your social capital.
     

Ways to earn trust:

• Loyalty
• Capacity to deliver results

1. Be deliberate about creating a godly impression.
2. Make the gate keeper your friend rather than an adversary – drivers, security guards, secretaries, clerks, messengers etc.
3. Be wise in solving relationship problems – apologize quickly.
4. Close and end relationship wisely and not deadly.
5. Master problem solving – a relationship is not good
6. Keep growing the network of your influence – Stop making enemies.
7. Never forget the God factor

Learn the use of the following words;

1. Please
2. Thank you
3. I am sorry
4. I love you